Think of Hands in Hand as a caring friend sitting beside you — one who's been through it, who knows what needs to happen next, and who will walk with you through every step without rush or judgment.
Compassionate · Faith-inclusive · Private & secure · Built with love
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Adia from Hands in HandHere with you right now 🤍
I'm so glad you found your way here.
I know you're probably feeling overwhelmed right now. That's completely normal. You don't have to have it all figured out.
I've been where you are. Whenever you're ready, we'll take it one step at a time together.
Let's start — I'll walk you through it→
"You don't have to have all the answers. We'll walk this journey with you."
— Adia, Founder of Hands in Hand
What we offer
Everything you need, in one compassionate place
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Funeral Planning Guide
Step-by-step guidance through every decision so nothing falls through the cracks.
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Grief Check-Ins
Gentle prompts to help you process how you're feeling — on your own terms.
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Obituary Builder
Guided prompts to help you write a tribute that truly honors who they were.
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Memorial Reminders
Birthdays, anniversaries, and the dates that still feel heavy — never forgotten.
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Legacy Planning
Organize your wishes and preserve your story for the people who love you.
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After-Service Support
We stay with you long after the service ends. Six weeks, six months, and beyond.
How we walk with you
One step at a time. Together.
One payment. No subscriptions. No recurring charges. Hands in Hand stays with you for as long as you need.
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First hours
Who to call, what to say, how to feel — guidance through the very first moments.
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Planning together
Service decisions, funeral home guidance, programs, and everything in between.
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The service
The repast, the practical, the emotional — and the quiet after everyone leaves.
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Weeks after
Paperwork, finances, grief check-ins when everyone else has moved on.
Families we've helped
You're in good hands
★★★★★
"I didn't know where to start. Hands in Hand walked me through every single step. I didn't feel alone once."
— Early member
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"The obituary builder helped me find words I didn't know I had. It was one of the most healing things I did."
— Early member
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"Six weeks later when everyone else had moved on, Hands in Hand was still checking in on me. That meant everything."
— Early member
More questions
Is this a subscription?
No. Both plans are a single one-time payment. Pay once and Hands in Hand stays with you for as long as you need — no monthly charges, ever.
What if I'm not religious?
Hands in Hand is faith-inclusive — not faith-required. Every feature works beautifully regardless of your beliefs, traditions, or background.
Can I gift this to someone who is grieving?
Yes — gifting is available at checkout. It's one of the most meaningful things you can do for someone navigating loss.
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You don't have to walk this alone.
Take the first step whenever you're ready. We'll be right here.
🕯️ In loving memory of · days of missing you
Your Guide · 14-Day Journey
Let's take this one step at a time.
There's no rush here and no wrong way to move through this. Each step explains not just what to do, but why — and reminds you that you're doing okay.
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A note from Adia before we begin
I'm so glad you found your way here. Whether you're in the first raw hours or the quiet weeks that follow — you don't have to have it together. You just have to take the next small step. I'll be right here for every one of them. 🤍
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Right now — the first hours
Be gentle. These are the only things that truly need attention right now.
Call your closest people
Before anything else — call the people who loved them most. You don't have to have the right words. Just call.
Gentle guidance: They deserve to hear your voice, not a notification.
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Notify their church or faith community
If they had a faith community, let them know. You don't have to make this call yourself — ask a trusted family member.
Gentle guidance: Faith communities often provide meals, support, and help with the service.
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Contact a funeral home — but take your time
You don't have to decide everything today. There is no urgency to commit right now.
Gentle guidance: Ask about both burial and cremation options before deciding. Use our Funeral Home Finder →
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Give yourself permission to feel this
Grief is not a weakness — it is love with nowhere to go. Eat something. Drink water. Let someone sit with you.
Gentle guidance: Let people help you. The meals, the errands, the sitting-with-you — let them in.
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Days 3–4 — Beginning to plan
One decision at a time. There is no perfect service.
Meet with the funeral home
Bring a trusted person. You have the legal right to a General Price List — ask for it. Don't feel rushed.
Gentle guidance: You are not obligated to use the first funeral home that picks up your loved one.
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Choose burial or cremation
Examples of service types: Traditional funeral · Celebration of life · Graveside service · Cremation with memorial · No service — private family only
Gentle guidance: Talk it through with family. There is no wrong choice.
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Contact the cemetery if doing burial
Select the plot, understand opening and closing fees, ask about grave marker options. The funeral home can often coordinate this.
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Choose what they will wear
Bring clothing to the funeral home: their outfit, undergarments, shoes, and any jewelry or items they always wore. This is a loving act.
Gentle guidance: Choose something that felt like them. Comfort over formality.
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Identify pallbearers
Typically 6 pallbearers. Choose people who loved them. Most are honored to be asked. Honorary pallbearers can participate without carrying the casket.
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Days 5–6 — Service details
Pulling everything together. You don't have to do this alone.
Plan the order of service
Opening · Scripture · Eulogy · Music · Viewing · Closing · Recessional. Use our Program Builder (Family plan) to create a beautiful printed program.
Gentle guidance: There is no required order. Let the service reflect them.
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Select readings and music
Songs they loved, scriptures that meant something, poems. Ask family members to contribute — this gives people a role and makes the service richer.
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Create the funeral program
Includes: obituary, order of service, pallbearer names, photos, readings, music. Order extra copies — 150–200 is a safe number for most services.
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Arrange flowers and transportation
Order from a florist who understands grief. Coordinate family transportation, especially for elderly relatives.
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Day 7 — The service
Today we honor them. Be present. That's all.
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Today is for being present.
No tasks. No decisions. Today you show up — for them, for your family, and for yourself. That's the whole thing.
After the service
The Repast
The repast is one of the oldest traditions in grief. Before it was called a repast, it was just people showing up — bringing food, sitting together, sharing stories. Grief shouldn't be eaten alone.
Cultural traditions
🙏 Black Church tradition
The church family coordinates everything. Fellowship hall filled with home-cooked food. Music, prayer, laughter and tears together — one of the most powerful expressions of community love.
✡️ Jewish Shiva
Mourners don't cook — the community feeds them. Community sits with the family for 7 days. Round foods symbolize the cycle of life.
☘️ Irish/Catholic Wake
Often held the night before the funeral. Food, drink, storytelling. Celebrating the life as much as mourning the loss.
🌺 Hispanic/Latino tradition
Family gathers immediately, often at the home. Food is central — tamales, rice, beans, beloved recipes. Faith prayers woven throughout.
🍑 Southern tradition
Casseroles, fried chicken, pound cakes. Neighbors show up without being asked. The kitchen becomes the heart of the house.
☪️ Muslim tradition
Community brings food to the family for 3 days. Simple, modest gathering. Quran recitation and prayer.
Assign a point person — not you
Designate a trusted friend or family member to coordinate logistics. Your job today is to receive love — not serve it.
Set up a memory table
Photos, mementos, things that were so perfectly them. A memory book where guests write their memories. People gather here — let it happen.
When everyone leaves
"At some point the last car will pull out of the driveway. The house will go quiet in a way it has never been quiet before. The food will be wrapped in foil on the counter. And you will feel the full weight of it all at once."
This is normal. This is grief arriving fully now that it has space to. Just breathe. You made it through today. That took everything you had — and you did it.
A moment of reflection
Would you like a word of comfort?
📖A scripture
🙏A prayer
✨An affirmation
💚No thank you
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Ready to keep walking together?
Days 1–7 are always free. When you're ready for more support — grief check-ins, obituary help, memorial reminders, and ongoing guidance — our plans are here whenever you need them.
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Grief Check-In
Hey. How are you today?
No pressure. No right answer. This is a quiet moment to check in with yourself — the way a good friend would ask. Everything here is private and just for you.
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Adia is checking inA safe space, just for you 🤍
Which of these feels most like today?
Choose as many as feel true.
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Sad
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Angry
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Numb
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Anxious
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Exhausted
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Lost
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Hopeful
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Grateful
What's on your heart today?
You showed up for yourself today.
That matters more than you know. Would you like a word of encouragement?
A short walk or gentle stretching can help shift the weight of grief.
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Natural support
Magnesium can help calm the nervous system during stressful times. Glow Harmony →
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Breathe
Inhale 4 · Hold 4 · Exhale 6. Repeat 3 times. Your nervous system will thank you.
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Prayer corner
A moment with what grounds you spiritually. Scripture, prayer, meditation — all welcome here.
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Drink water & rest
Grief is physically exhausting. Eat something. Sleep when you can. Your body is working hard.
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If grief begins to affect your ability to function daily — your sleep, your work, your relationships — please connect with a licensed therapist or your doctor. Seeking help is not weakness. It is wisdom.
Our Story
Built from loss. Offered with love.
Hands in Hand exists because one woman faced the impossible — three losses in too short a time — and decided to turn that pain into a gift for others.
Why this exists
When I lost my aunt, I was unprepared. When I lost my bonus dad, I was still grieving. When I lost my mother, I was both completely undone — and somehow still expected to handle logistics, paperwork, phone calls, and decisions I had never made before.
I kept thinking: there has to be something that walks you through this. Something that holds your hand at 2am. Something that remembers the anniversaries, helps you find the words for the obituary, and still checks in on you six weeks later when the rest of the world has moved on.
There wasn't. So I built it.
"Grief taught me what I wish I'd known. Hands in Hand is my way of passing that forward — so no one has to figure it out alone."
— Adia, Founder
What we believe
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No one grieves alone
Every feature is built around this belief. Grief was never meant to be a solo experience.
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Practicality and compassion belong together
The logistics don't pause for the grief. We hold both for you at once.
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Grief has no timeline
We're here the day of loss and six months later. We don't disappear after the service.
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Faith-inclusive, always
Whatever your traditions, your beliefs, your culture — this space holds all of you.
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Adia
Founder, Hands in Hand
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"I built this because I needed it once. Now I'm sharing it so you don't have to carry this alone."
Our mission
To ensure that no one navigates grief alone — by providing compassionate, practical, and faith-inclusive support from the moment of loss through the journey ahead.
Support Plans
Choose how we walk with you
Both plans are a single one-time payment. No subscriptions. No recurring charges. Pay once and Hands in Hand stays with you for as long as you need.
Individual
Just for you
$34.99
one-time · instant access
"Your personal companion through grief — at your own pace, in your own time."
Not grieving, but want to plan ahead? Organize your wishes, write letters to loved ones, and preserve your story — before it's ever needed.
🔒 Secure checkout via Stripe · All prices in USD · No subscription, ever · Instant access after purchase
Common questions
Can I upgrade from Individual to Family later?
Yes. Email us at handsinhandapp@gmail.com and we'll apply your original payment toward the Family plan.
Can I gift this to someone who is grieving?
Yes — gifting is available at checkout. It's one of the most meaningful things you can do for someone navigating loss.
What if I'm not ready to purchase yet?
Days 1–7 are always free — no purchase, no sign-up needed. Come back whenever you're ready. We'll be here.
Obituary Builder · Family Plan
Help us tell their story.
Finding words for someone you loved feels impossible. We'll guide you, one gentle prompt at a time, until you've told their story in a way that truly honors who they were.
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Start with one memory
You don't have to write a perfect tribute. Start with one small thing that was so perfectly them. The rest will follow. 🤍
Choose your style
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Faith-based
Includes scripture and references to faith. Warm and spiritually grounded.
"She walked faithfully and loved deeply..."
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Non-religious
Celebrates their life and legacy without religious references. Universal and heartfelt.
"She lived with intention and loved without limits..."
Let's build it together
Answer each prompt in your own words. Don't worry about grammar or perfection.
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📷 Upload a favorite photo (optional)
Legacy Planner · Family Plan
A gift for the people you love most.
Private, encrypted, and visible only to you. Organize your wishes, preserve your story, and leave behind something meaningful.
🔒 Private & encrypted — only you can see this
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My Wishes
Funeral preferences, burial or cremation, service wishes
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Letters
Words for your children, spouse, best friend
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Where Things Are
Will, insurance, accounts — organized for your family
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My Wishes
Take your time. There's no rush.
Service preference
Traditional funeral service
Celebration of life
Graveside service only
No service — private family only
Burial or cremation
Burial
Cremation
No preference — family decides
Religious or spiritual wishes
Songs or music for the service
⚠️ This is a personal planning document, not a legally binding will. Please consult a licensed attorney for legally valid estate planning. Find free legal aid →
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Letters to My Loved Ones
Words for the moments you won't be there.
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To my children
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To my spouse
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To my best friend
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On my birthday
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Their wedding day
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On graduation
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First holiday without me
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When they're scared
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Add your own
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My Story
The things only you know — preserved for generations.
My birth story & childhood
A favorite memory
Family recipes
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Where Things Are
So your family isn't searching during an already difficult time.
Location of my Will
Life insurance
Bank accounts
Who gets my heirlooms
Pet care instructions
Social media instructions
🔒 All information entered here is encrypted and private. Only you can access it.
Memorial Dates
Remember them always.
Add the moments you never want to forget — we'll remind you gently, so you never have to carry it alone.
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"Those we love don't go away. They walk beside us every day."
Light a candle by adding a date below
Add a meaningful date
What kind of date is this?
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Anniversary of passing
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Birthday
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Wedding anniversary
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First holiday without them
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Milestone they'll miss
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Another special date
Their name
The date
A note about this date (optional)
How would you like to be reminded?
Email reminder on the day
Email reminder 3 days before
No reminder — just save the date
Dates you're honoring
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Mom — Anniversary of passingMarch 14 · Reminder 3 days before
Coming up in 47 days
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Grandpa James — BirthdayJuly 22 · Reminder on the day
In 155 days
🖨️ Print my memorial dates
After the Service
The days after are hard. We're still here with you.
The flowers have wilted. Everyone has gone back to their lives. But you're still here — still grieving, still figuring things out. That's completely normal. And we're not going anywhere.
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From Adia
The weeks after can feel lonelier than the days before the service. The world moves on — but grief doesn't follow a schedule. You're doing better than you think. 🤍
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Take care of yourself first
Give yourself permission to grieve
There is no timeline. A hard Tuesday six months from now is not failure — it's love.
Use grief check-ins
Use the check-in as often as you need. Some weeks daily, some weeks not at all. Both are okay.
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A gentle reminder: If grief begins to affect your daily life — your sleep, work, relationships — please reach out to a licensed therapist or doctor. See our therapist directory →
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Thank you & certificates
Send thank you notes
For flowers, meals, donations, and for showing up. Within a few weeks is perfectly acceptable.
Request certified death certificates
Request at least 10 certified copies from the funeral home or vital records. You'll need these for banks, insurance, and legal matters.
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Documentation to gather
Create a single binder for the following.
Death certificates
Birth certificates
Last will and testament
Revocable living trust
Marriage license
Deeds for real estate
DD214 (military service)
Net worth statement
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Financial institutions
Social Security benefits
Life insurance policies
Annuities
Checking accounts
Savings accounts
Retirement accounts
Investment accounts
Credit cards
Auto loans
Mortgages
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Credit reporting agencies
Notify each to prevent identity theft.
TransUnion
Equifax
Experian
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Employer (if applicable)
Notify employer
Work life insurance
Unpaid salary & vacation
Health savings account (HSA)
Stock options
Pension benefits
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Professionals & advisors
Estate planning attorney
Financial advisor
CPA / accountant
Executor of the estate
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Login credentials to locate
Bank accounts
Email accounts
Facebook & social media
LinkedIn
Investment accounts
Cable & phone
Amazon & PayPal
Credit card portals
We're still here — months later
Grief doesn't end at the service. Six weeks, six months, a year from now — we're still checking in.
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Continue grief check-ins
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View memorial dates
Funeral Home Finder
Find a compassionate funeral home near you.
You don't have to choose the first one you find. Take your time. The right funeral home will feel like a partner — someone who listens, guides, and honors your loved one with care.
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Before you search
You are not obligated to use the funeral home that picks up your loved one. You can comparison shop. You have the right to ask for a price list — by law, every funeral home must provide one. Bring a trusted person with you. 🤍
What to look for
They give you a price list upfront
Required by law. If they hesitate, walk away.
They listen more than they talk
A good funeral director asks about your loved one first.
They honor your cultural traditions
Ask specifically about faith-based or cultural needs.
They don't pressure you
You should never feel rushed or upsold during grief.
Good community reputation
Ask family, friends, or your faith community for referrals.
Handle burial and cremation
So you have all options available.
Questions to ask when you call
Print this list and take it with you.
Can you provide a General Price List right now?
What is included in your basic service fee?
Do you handle both burial and cremation?
Can you accommodate our faith or cultural traditions?
How many death certificates will you obtain for us?
Sometimes grief needs more than a guide — it needs a professional hand to hold. Our directory features licensed grief counselors who specialize in loss.
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A gentle reminder
Reaching out to a professional is not weakness. It is one of the most loving things you can do for yourself.
The greatest gift you can give your family is clarity.
Not everyone who finds this page is grieving. Some of us are simply wise enough to plan ahead — to spare the people we love the confusion and the searching. This plan is for you.
No. The Legacy Plan is a personal planning document — not a legally binding will. Consult an attorney for legal estate documents. Think of this as the human side of planning.
Can I update it later?
Yes — always. Life changes. Update your Legacy Plan anytime.
Does this connect to the grief support plans?
They're separate. The Legacy Plan is for planning ahead. If you ever need grief support, our Individual and Family plans are always available.
Legal
Your privacy matters. So does your trust.
Written in plain English — not legal jargon. You deserve to know exactly how we handle your information, especially during one of the most vulnerable times of your life.
The short version — plain English
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Your data is private
Everything you enter — check-ins, legacy plans, letters — is private and encrypted. Only you can see it.
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We never sell your data
Your personal information and grief journey are never sold to anyone. Ever.
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Payments are secure
All payments go through Stripe. We never see or store your card details.
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Emails are yours to control
We only email reminders you set up and receipts. Unsubscribe anytime.
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You can delete everything
Request deletion of your account and all data at any time by emailing us.
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For adults only
Hands in Hand is intended for users 18 and older.
Privacy Policy
Last updated: May 2025
What information we collect
When you create an account we collect your name and email address. When you make a payment, Stripe processes it — we receive only a confirmation, never your card details. Content you create — check-ins, legacy entries, letters — is stored securely and is only accessible to you.
How we use your information
We use your email to send memorial date reminders you've set up, receipts for purchases, and occasional platform updates. We never send unsolicited marketing emails. We do not use your grief journal entries for any purpose other than delivering the service to you.
Who we share your information with
Nobody. We do not sell, rent, or share your personal information with third parties for marketing purposes. We use Supabase to store your data securely, Stripe to process payments, and Resend to deliver emails.
Your rights
You may request a copy of your data, correction of inaccurate information, or complete deletion of your account and all associated data at any time by emailing handsinhandapp@gmail.com. We will respond within 30 days.
Terms of Service
Last updated: May 2025
What Hands in Hand is
Hands in Hand is a grief support and planning platform. We are not a medical provider, legal advisor, or licensed mental health practice. Nothing on this platform constitutes medical, legal, or therapeutic advice.
Not a legal document
The "My Final Wishes" document and all Legacy Planner content are personal planning tools only — not legally binding wills. Please consult a licensed attorney in your state for legally valid estate planning documents.
Payments and refunds
All plans are one-time purchases processed through Stripe. Due to the immediate digital nature of our service, all sales are final. If you experience a technical issue preventing access, please contact us and we will make it right.
Contact us
Questions? Email us at handsinhandapp@gmail.com. We're real people and we respond personally.
